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What went right, reframe your thinking for a happier now, Michael G. Wetter, PsyD and Eileen Bailey

eng

Includes bibliographical references

no index present

non fiction

What went right

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Michael G. Wetter, PsyD and Eileen Bailey

reframe your thinking for a happier now

Since childhood, our experiences and interactions have shaped the running narrative of who we are and how we view ourselves. When those interactions are painful, many of us have a tendency to internalize the negativity, translating mean or selfish messages given to us by family, friends, or teachers during our youth into truths about who we are#x97;our flaws, failures, and shortcomings. Through practical and easy-to-understand principles and techniques, What Went Right teaches you to recognize and intervene on self-defeating thought processes and uncover your core beliefs about who you really are

Acknowledgments ; Introduction: The Benefits of a Healthy Self-Esteem ; 1. Understanding Self-Esteem ; Do You Have Healthy Self-Esteem? ; Where Does Our Self-Image Come From? ; Other Challenges to Self-Esteem Besides Upbringing ; How Does Your Self-Image Affect Your Life Now? ; 2. The Basics of Cognitive Restructuring ; What Is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy? ; Types of Problematic Thoughts ; Automatic Thoughts ; Understanding Core Beliefs; Making the Choice to Change ; Quiz: What Would You Do (or Think)?; 3. Catastrophizing ; Types of Catastrophizing ; The Reasons You CatastrophizeLook for Evidence Use the ""What If..."" Technique ; Beware of Thought Chains ; Tips for De-Catastrophizing ; 4. All-or-Nothing Thinking ; What Is All-or-Nothing Thinking? ; All-or-Nothing Thinking and Self-Image; Words to Avoid ; Learning to See the Gray ; The Cost of Perfectionism ; Tips for Avoiding All-or-Nothing Thinking ; 5. Should-and-Must Statements ; Words to Avoid ; How Must-Erbations Affect Self-Esteem ; Should-and-Must Thinking in Relationships ; Tips for Chanigng Should-and-Must Thoughts ; A Final Thought ; Tips for Avoiding ""Musts"" and ""Shoulds""6. Fortune Telling and Mind Reading Predicting the Future; I Know What You Are Thinking ; How Mind Reading and Fortune Telling Affect Your Feelings of Self-Worth ; Changing Is Hard Work But Worthwhile ; Tips for Reducing Mind Reading and Fortune Telling ; 7. Emotional Reasoning ; Emotional Reasoning and Self-Estee ; Challenging Core Beliefs ; Balancing Emotion and Reason ; Tips for Challenging Emotional Reasoning ; 8. Overgeneralization ; The Difference Between All-or-Nothing Thinking and Overgeneralization ; One Step Away from Disaster ; How Overgeneralization Affects Your RelationshipsTips for Avoiding Overgeneralization 9. Labeling ; Labeling and Self-Esteem Issues ; Facts Versus Judgments ; Be Kind to Yourself ; Labeling Others; Tips for Avoiding Labels; 10. Mental Filtering and Disqualifying the Positive ; Mental Filtering ; Disqualifying the Positive ; Accepting Compliments ; Accepting Personal Strengths and Accomplishments ; Mental Filtering, Disqualifying the Positive, and Self-Esteem ; Tips for Tuning Your Mental Filter to See the Positive ; 11. Personalization and Blame ; Personalization ; Questions to Ask Yourself ; Blame ; Identifying Blame StatementsTips for Avoiding Personalization and Blame 12. Taking Personal Responsibility ; Accept Past Actions and Behaviors; Forgive Yourself ; Forgive Others; Steps to Forgiveness ; Look Forward ; Tips for Taking Responsibility When You Make Mistakes ; 13. Redefining Yourself ; Accepting Positive Qualities; Acceptance Doesn't Mean There Isn't Room for Improvement ; What Do You Value? ; Discovering Your Guiding Principles ; Tips for Redefining Yourself ; 14. Lifestyle Changes ; Relaxation Techniques; Mindfulness; Other Meditation Techniques ; Visualization and Guided Imagery ; Affirmations