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Co-parenting 101, helping your kids thrive in two households after divorce, Deesha Philyaw, Michael D. Thomas

eng

Includes bibliographical references

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non fiction

Co-parenting 101

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Deesha Philyaw, Michael D. Thomas

helping your kids thrive in two households after divorce

Co-Parenting 101offers a comprehensive, personal, and upfront look at how to effectively raise kids with an ex-spouse. The authors are the creators of the popular website, coparenting101.org, and are co-parents themselves. In the book they share their own experiences, as well as provide professional advice from co-parenting experts. Through practical tips combined with expert parental strategies, this book will encourage and equip divorced parents to put animosity aside and put their kids first

Acknowledgments; Introduction: "You Should Write a Book"; Okay, So ... What Is Co-parenting, Exactly?; Perfection Is Not the Goal; Putting the Kids First; Honoring Your Child's Relationship with Your Ex; Before You Call a Lawyer: Laying the Groundwork for Co-parenting Success; Establishing Your Ground Rules; Commitments for Building a Strong Post-breakup Parenting Partnership; Planning for Future Peace; Good Grief: Strategies to Start the Healing Process; Journaling through the Grief Process; Steps toward Healing; If All Else Fails, Remember: "It's Not about You."Attorneys and Mediators and Collaborative Divorce-Oh, My!Mediation; Collaborative Divorce; Sharing an Attorney; Choosing Separate Attorneys; If You've Already Finalized Your Divorce; What's Your Co-parenting Style?; Super Friends; Business Partners; Oil and Water; Fifteen Things You May Want to Do (But Must Not Do) as a Co-parent; 1. Attempt to Sabotage Your Child's Relationship with the Other Parent; 2. Bad-Mouth Your Ex or Your Ex's New Significant Other; 3. Use Your Child as a Messenger; 4. Tell Your Child the Grown-Up Details about Why You Broke Up5. Try to Convince Your Child That the Divorce Was a Good Idea6. Treat Your Child like a Confidante, Counselor, or Fellow "Victim"; 7. Major in the Minors; 8. Use Your Child as a Weapon to Wound Your Ex; 9. Punish Grandma and Grandpa; 10. Get Rid of Family Photos and Other Keepsakes; 11. Rush into Another Relationship or Expose Your Child to the Revolving Door of Your Dating Life; 12. Pressure Your Child to Approve of Your New Relationship; 13. Buy Things for Your Child out of Guilt or to Compete with Your Ex; 14. Bash Marriage, Relationships, or Your Ex's Gender; 15. WallowFifteen Things You Must Do (But May Not Want to Do) as a Co-parent1. Know Which Pitches to Swing At and Which to Let Pass; 2. Be the "Bigger" Co-Parent; 3. Take Responsibility; 4. Be Flexible; 5. Lose the Sense of Entitlement; 6. Enjoy Your Child-Free Time; 7. Respect Your Child's Relationship with the Other Parent; 8. Encourage Your Child to Respect the Other Parent; 9. Keep the Lines of Communication Open; 10. See Your Ex through Your Child's Eyes; 11. Mind Your Business; 12. Move On; 13. Turn Over a New Leaf; 14. Offer (or Ask for) Forgiveness; 15. Look to the FutureCalendars, Clothes, and CampsHow Will You Share Parenting Time?; Clothing and Other Items; Money Matters; Education and Extracurricular Activities; Health and Medical Issues; Travel; Special Considerations for Teens; Other Considerations; Calendars and Other Organizational Tools; Write Your Own Parenting Plan; Guiding Questions; Communicating beyond the Plan; What If My Ex Doesn't Follow the Plan?; Separate but Equal; His House, His Rules; Believe Half of What You Hear; It's Not a Competition if You're on the Same Team; "What about Us?": Never-Married and Noncustodial Parents

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